Are you a women? This section is ENTIRELY for you.
Nightmare.
We truly hope you appreciated the light-hearted approach to this holiday, and know that it is no way an
attempt to degrade the female status. If anything, we’re empowering you with an incredible
excuse to inject some va-va-voom into the relationship!
Then again, if you truly are unimpressed by March 14th and wish to kick and scream, then the
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The late nights suddenly make sense – seriously impressed/envious of your digital flawlessness… and not even a little disgusted (exception: okay, a little bit by the bleeding steak – an image for those of us who like it well-done perhaps?!) x
Thank fuck someone decided to make a holiday for this!? XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I think it’s a GREAT idea to balance things out some; but which is the appetizer and which is the main course? (…and what’s for dessert?!?)
Hooray! Just another wonderful excuse to make steak and get frisky!
Does this mean I shouldn’t have done anything for my guy for Valentines Day??? whoops…
Two points…
1. How does this movement address the likelihood that women already give more head than they receive, and cook more meals than are cooked for them? Not to mention how much more severely disparate this was/is in recent history and other cultures?
2. Regardless of whether there’s any weird misogyny *intended* by this movement, what does this movement do in order to *not* attract weird misogynists?
@RLStine
i think implying that the idea for this day, is actually a misogynistic message, is simply reading too much into it.
And I obviously don’t know if it will attract weird misogynists. But what COULD you do to repel weird misogynists? Do you have any actual suggestions? Or are you just pointing out that an idea based around sexual attraction COULD attract misogynists….. DUH. you know?
So really unless you have an answer for your own question, then your kind of just being redundant.
And to your first “point” i actually go down on my girlfriend just as much as she does go down on me. (Every time)
And I am in-fact the cook in the relationship (at least 60% of the time) – she definitely does a good amount of cooking as well.
I think what’s happening is your own personal experiences with men has ruined your ability to enjoy such a day. Sucks to be you..
It’s just for fun…Lighten up
i agree with both points RL makes. and to add, why is this only aimed at heterosexuals? why can’t we all partake in this day? i bet men were giving each bj’s long before they convinced wimmin to do so. straight, gay, bi, every which way should enjoy. and, vegetarians too! tofu and bj day!
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I dont see how this would be misogynous at all. Maybe from your point of view, I could see a disrespectful thing here or something? But no women hating.
What might be a good idea would be some sort of disclaimer that this is intended as a bit of fun for happy, healthy couples. Less emphasis on the “I earned this” aspect, perhaps? Painting food-and-sex as men’s equivalent to women’s gifts-and-romance is also something of an old stereotype.
The whole thing seems like sort of a magnet for kind of entitled guys who actually think Valentines Day is some kind of infringement on men’s rights. The holiday is drawing on kitchen-and-bedroom imagery which acts as a dog whistle to the kinds of people who’d rather women treated men like this every day.
My fix would be to drop the V-Day equivalency and make it Steak & Oral Sex Weekend, a full on two-part holiday! His and Hers (Hers and Hers, His and His, flip a coin to see who goes first.) The added benefit of that would be ladies would know to stay away from the dudes who only like the “His” day on Facebook.
These are actually constructive suggestions! I would love to suggest S&BJ Day to my girlfriend, but it would probably not go over well.
Steak (Or Delicious Treat of Your Choice) and Oral Sex Weekend, on the other hand, may be received much more openly (even if it doesn’t quite roll off the tounge…).
It does sound much more appealing to a wider audience – including the below vegetarian as well as those of non-heterosexual orientations. Hooray for inclusiveness!
I am SOOOO glad I’m not you, your life must absolutely suck! If you cant view a website just to laugh and giggle then you have problems. Stop forcing your ridiculous “inclusionary utopian world view” on the rest of us. Cant I have an F’ing steak and BJ without you trying to make me feel guilty just cuz I’m a guy! Is it my fault you never get asked out on dates, could it have something to do with the fact you refuse to shave your legs and arm pits? If you don’t like this website or the greatest national holiday of all time then keep it to yourself.
Steven James, it’s weird that you think I’m forcing anything on anyone or trying to make you personally to feel guilt, and it’s weird that you react by making assumptions about who I am and my appearance. Don’t be weird about this stuff, that is my point.
Keep in mind you’re on a page specifically created to be open to opinions and feedback, you don’t need to act touchy because someone else has one that’s less than 100% positive.
I realize that a lot of people are much more comfortable pretending that sexism is a thing of the past and feminism is just some pesky guilt-trip that’s outlived its usefulness. I realize that it annoys people when someone analyzes something that’s supposed to be casual or fun. But casual sexism is something I consider to be a problem. I think this holiday has a few examples of it (and I think I’m going pretty easy on it as far feminist critique goes.)
Casual sexism (or racism, etc) is something that nearly everybody’s guilty of sometimes, but in my eyes, it’s NOT AT ALL something that automatically makes you a shitty person. Everyone’s a product of society, after all. You only verge on shittyness if, when you’ve been criticized, you refuse to reassess any of the little beliefs and attitudes you carry. If you aren’t inspired to think about sexism a little more deeply, something must be keeping you from feeling that it’s worth your time. And that something is probably deeper in your upbringing than I, a random internet person, can get at.
Love, R.L.
r.l. stine, your feminism is “supposedly” all about women equality but ultimately it is about women domination. You feminists will bark and bitch (no pun intended lol) about anything and everything that is even minutely unfair to yall. We live in a day and age where we are trying our best to be equal for every gender, age, sexual orientation, race, and EVERYTHING else. Not every single person, but most of us. If you constantly think pessimistic, then you will find yourself not able to enjoy very many little things in life because you are too busy pointing out the negatives. If you stay optimistic, things wont get you down as much. This “holiday” is a mere funny little thing that happy couples can enjoy with each other. Schools aren’t getting closed down forcing everyone to celebrate Steak & BJ Day or anything. If you really wanna put your feminist actions to good use, simply go to Google and type in “girls fucked in the ass” and I bet you could make a career out of writing to all the websites you disagree with.
“We live in a day and age where we are trying our best to be equal for every gender, age, sexual orientation, race, and EVERYTHING else. Not every single person, but most of us.”
No, most people really aren’t. Since when did the majority of people try their best at anything? The majority of people are a bit lazy, and put off by anything that requires them to think a little differently.
This is why even if feminism really were about dominating men (which it isn’t, except in the paranoid fantasies of men who assume that “Well I’M such a great guy, anyone who thinks I’m doing something wrong must have diabolical motives.”) it would still take ages to even approach equality.
I already explained why casual sexism is an important thing to address and why you shouldn’t feel threatened or accused by the topic.
@ R.L. – YOU are the reason that “sexism” in this form still exists. To be honest, it is those opinions of such topics that cause others to create opinions you are uncomfortable with. I hope you realize the rest of the world enjoys sexuality with open arms and artistic nature. The US is the only first world nation that has placed a taboo on the subject, for reasons I cannot fathom. Furthermore, the Valentine’s Day that you adore so much is by far the most stereotypical holiday ever created, based on sexism in its purest form. If women applaud the day so much because they get pampered (and yes the traditional meaning of the holiday is for us men to pamper our significant others), it is only fair for men to have a day to expect (or at least hope for) a testosterone version of doilies and chocolates. If you find that unjust or absurd, it appears to me you might actually have an inferiority complex, or you just enjoy being a feminist man-hater.
PS – This is in no way a personal attack or a touchy response – simply stating the facts by comparing one gender-biased holiday with another.
Your boyfriend/husband has it rough.
I think this day totally rocks!!! Not really a big Valentine’s Day fan. Actually my man & I don’t really do any holidays. However, I think this is one we could really get into!!! I doubt it will become a national holiday (although I’d love to see a day off work dedicated to “eating some meat”!!) wouldn’t it be awesome if you could get a paid day off to get down & dirty? Saaaaawwwwweeeeetttt!!! Of course we who are sexually adventurous don’t need a day to remind us to please our lovers accordingly but this is a really fun idea!!
thanks for having the balls to launch this rocket!!
from a girl that knows how to give a little & enjoy the fun!!
xoxo Nikkie
I think it’s hilarious, but what about the vegetarians among us? XD
YES.
Steak shelves across the globe will be bare by this evening.
This website is awesome – I’ve sent it to all of my ‘ in a relationship’ friends.
I love the thought and have already given my guy his bj
this is the funnist thing i have ever seen. me and my man yes we did stuff together on V-day but i am not a huge fan of that day and ill let ya know i LOVE Steak…
both of us equally plan things/events and hang out spend Time with Each other and friends and by ourselves!
VDAY is not just for woman.. and guys spend a ton of money on their girls on Valentine’s day.. so me and my man we show our love everyday not just on Vday …. and if your in a bad relationship.. get out of it… cuz beng in a relationship is pointless unless its a good one.
I love this day. Extra protein does wonders for my nails!
Steak and BJ day rocks!! Somewhere I saw it as Steak and *a* BJ day; why stop at one? I’m just getting into the shower now. I’ve brushed the snow off the barbecue, made garlic bread and am checking the charge on the weVibe! Lets give a little back. My hubbie works hard and tries really hard to keep me happy; he deserves at least one Steak and BJ day a year!
Fine. But if it’s “in no way an attempt to degrade the female status,” then could you please not reduce us to sex objects by having a nearly-nude woman on the front page?
I just figured it out! This is the problem – women think it is a ‘reduction’ of themselves to be referred to as a sex object, while men view it as an elevation. It goes back to the fundamental difference between how men and women view sex and how that is changing in today’s western cultures, and why so many women of today can get into a site like this (mostly laughingly, but with due consideration for the concept). Traditionally, societally, historically, women have viewed sex as a chore, or something that they are not supposed to want, but men view it as the penultimate personal interaction and recreation activity. It’s perfectly understandable why women would think such a tedious concept would reduce them from their viewpoint, but it is not from their viewpoint that it is being expressed! From the man’s viewpoint, it’s a compliment. Women have to start seeing things from other people’s point of view instead of thinking that their societally-forced position is the correct one – thank god so many already have!
Yes clearly women feeling degraded is their own fault. Just stop feeling that way, bucko!
Stine – Love the name you have picked, very original to pick a chauvinist author when you are advocating women’s superiority. And Will was not saying it’s the woman’s fault that she feels degraded. Historical research will show that until the 1920′s women were considered whores or worse if they even let out a hint that they enjoyed sex. We all know that when a society has decided on its beliefs, it is near impossible to break them (i.e. racism, gender pay levels). I see this as only a societal fault that needs to be overcome. No person – man, woman, straight, gay – should be ashamed at all of their sexuality, and no other should frown upon them for it. Just as we all have different political views, we all have different sexual views as well. You wouldn’t consider the man who created the Green Party to be less of a person, so don’t do the same for the one who thought of this day! Let the people who like the idea enjoy it, and don’t try to change it (with the exception of some ideas like throwing in disclaimers for gays and vegetarians and such). As far as I’m concerned, everyone on this site just let bigons be bigons, and do not bash each other for their thoughts. Just have a nice meal, and let the pleasure commence!
would you have preferred a nearly nude male? Would that have made it better? Women are sex objects whether we like it or not. Its not what you know its how you deal with it. If some male wants to see myself as a sex object he is welcome to. Afterall its just an ‘opinion’
seriously would it have been better if it was a nearly nude male generic model?
What about those of us who would like to participate, but our significant others work 3rd shift and we’re stay at home mom’s with two kids so no time during the day either? I do agree with Emily about the nearly-nude woman on the front page being degrading to us women.
Hi, I think this is a great idea. I don’t think it is reducing females to sex objects, I think it is a bit of fun that should be seen as spicing up an otherwise average March. Valentines day is aimed at us girls and pleasing us and men go all out to do this I don’t think it is an awful idea that a day can be aimed at them and a meal they might like (it does not have to be steak) and a sexual thing they enjoy (this may not be a bj)
Lighten up, have a fun carefree evening and treat your man. I have only just found out about it and feel bad for all the years of nights in hotels and meal out I have been treated to.
Today was my first Steak and BJ day. My boyfriend and I listen to Preston & Steve (a morning radio show in Philly) and they mentioned it today so I decided to skip my afternoon class and meet my boyfriend at his house for a little fun. He has work tonight so the steak dinner became an issue but I decided to pick up a couple cheesesteaks (close enough, right?) and meet him on his break to hold up the other end of the bargain. And let me tell you, he was MORE than grateful. He’s already researching a good female equivalent and so am I
Ladies, I have found “Cake and Cunnilingus Day” on Facebook…look it up. No set date yet, but hey, it’s a damn good start!
id rather have Steak & Cunnilingus, not a cake fan but im sure this could be modified for each personal taste
Are you serious, I didn’t need to make dinner the other 364 days?! Goddammit!
Cute <3!
How about Flange and Blamange (Blamanche??) Day for the ladies on the same day, that way you get a starter,maincourse and two deserts
Its just for fun…some people need to relax. I gave my man a BJ and he cooked the steak – it was all good and I didnt mind at all.
Quite frankly after reading various comments, once again this fantastic idea has been blown out of all proportion. Its been a practice of mine for several years. VDay is more for women than it is males generically speaking. Why shouldnt men have a day similar to VDay? Are they lesser human beings who have no needs or desires?
in short.. yada yada yada. Killjoys get over it
Keep up the good work!
btw I cant seem to load the ‘expert’ vids to see if there is anything i could improve on